The crux of a stable relationship is absolute transparency. Trust is the foundation of any relationship. You will be able to provide utmost care and love to your partner, only if you trust them and vice versa. People who have had a past often find it difficult to trust their new partners. This is because they are hurt. They haven’t received their closure, making their emotions unsettled and themselves, vulnerable. 

The beginning of any good relationship should be led on the foundation of trust. If you’ve had a past lover, here are a few ways in which you can confess about it to your new partner;

Explain your personality in the past
It is very important to start a relationship on a good foot. You can do this by explaining to your partner, the kind of person, you use to be. What was your mentality back then, what kind of partner you were looking for and what were your career goals. All of this is very important because as humans, evolution is continuous and therefore, no surprizes there for the choices you may have made in the past will be drastically different from the ones you will make in the present.

Triggers for your past relationship
If you’ve had an extra marital affair in the past, it is a good idea to confess it to your current partner. This confession ensures that you are very transparent about your part to your current partner and shall not commit adultery again. What also helps strengthen your case is explaining the reasons of why you had an affair or illegit relationship in the first place. Here you may like to talk about how unsatisfactory your relationship was or what exactly were you seeking from your actions. 

Expectations in bed
Apart from expressing yourself, it is also important to talk in bed. Love making is not an act that gets over when you’ll are physically satisfied. It goes beyond that. You need to confess your erotic past with your ex-lover to the current one. The degrees at which you are comfortable with. What you would also like to do in bed to help satisfy yourself but also your partner. This activity helps set your standards and help you or your partner work towards fulfilling each other’s expectations.

Heath issues you may have
If you love someone, you can’t see them fallen sick. This not just applies to you but also your partner. Therefore, the best way to go about is to express your past which also includes the gruesome details of your health. Times you may have chlamydia or any other STD. The brands of condoms or contraceptives you are allergic to. Also, the kind of perfumes that work or not on your skin can be discussed. These kind of details may seem well settled in the part if you don’t mention it, but if you are in a serious relationship, you don’t want a recurrence to affect your future. 

Anger management
Rather than expecting a calm reaction from your partner when you get angry, it is important to begin with self-analysis. Understand you triggers and try to work on those. This will help maintain a calm relationship between both of you. If you feel lost, a any point in time, it is always better to consult an expert who can help you with your issues and enhance your mental health. 

Money matters
We all love a liberated partner in today’s generation. Someone who believes in gender neutrality and does not hesitate in paying up equally. But if you expectations are not on the same page, then you must confess. If you want to be an idealistic housewife, with no interest in earning money, then you must tell your current partner about it. If your business is not booming and are in debts, you need to tell you partner about your issues. The true colours of any partner are best seen when money is involved, therefore, best confess. 

With these few pointers, you will set a strong foundation of your relationship and have a bright future with the love of your life. 

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