When you and your spouse walked down the aisle, you envisioned what most couples believe when they say their “I do’s”—that you would forever remain in love with each other. The reality, though, is that sometimes partners have irreconcilable differences, and as a result, divorce is inevitable.
The question is, how exactly do you know if your marriage is headed for divorce? What are the warning signs? Here’s a rundown on five signs that your relationship is calling for divorce.
- Feelings of Contempt
This is one of the top red flags. Contempt can grow and manifest in multiple ways. For instance, perhaps you often feel angry toward your partner, or maybe you find yourself being more sarcastic than you normally would be. If you have these feelings, then your marital union is likely in trouble.
Also, if you have a tendency to constantly nitpick and criticize your spouse, and vice versa, then this is a major red flag as well.
- Battling About Household Duties
If you and your spouse sometimes fight about who will take out the trash or unload the next dishwasher load, this is perfectly normal. The reality is, many couples argue about chores and are not heeded for divorce. However, if you do make some snide remarks regarding various household tasks, this might be a sign of a bigger relationship issue that you should address.
- Not Talking
Another sign that your relationship’s foundation is no longer as solid as it once was is the failure of one or both parties to speak to the other party. Perhaps you are starting to stonewall your partner, with little desire to have a conversation. In fact, you feel like you’re beginning to shut them out of your life altogether. Considering that communication remains an essential part of any healthy relationship, failure to communicate can contribute to marital dissolution eventually.
- A Lack of Happiness
You wake up each morning beside your spouse and feel down, but you can’t explain why. Your spouse may actually be a part of the problem—or even the problem—and you may have never truly realized this.
The reality is, if you are chronically unhappy, you may immediately view family stress, money, or even your job as the culprit. And it’s true—these areas of your life could very well be contributing to your lack of contentment. However, you may actually be using these issues as excuses to avoid dealing with your marital issues.
Not feeling satisfied with your life is a big red flag and of course may include a variety of factors, but it’s one that is unfortunately often overlooked. If you do end up experiencing a “light bulb” moment where you realize that your marriage is no longer working, there is no need to keep tolerating it. It’s in your best interest to change the course of your marriage now or be prepared to end it for the sake of both you and your spouse.
- Monetary Issues
Finances remain the top stressor in marriages today, so if you and your spouse fight about money, you’re not alone. In your case, you and the other party may be arguing about your lack of money. Or, you might not agree on how to spend your money. Maybe the other party is using credit cards to pay for items that you feel shouldn’t be purchased.
Whether you both are mad about one another’s spending habits, you’re facing unexpected expenses, or you have insufficient funds, arguing about money can reveal a deeper incompatibility between the two of you. And sadly, this relationship incompatibility may eventually pave the way for divorce.
Understand Your Options if You See Divorce in Your Future
The prospect of divorce can unfortunately take a toll on you mentally and emotionally. However, you can take steps to help you to confront this reality.
For instance, you can seek the guidance of a counselor, who may be able to help you and the other party to resolve your differences and maintain your marital union. If this is not possible, a family law attorney can help you to end your marriage while pursuing a fair and comprehensive settlement with the other party.
Evaluate your marital union today based on the abovementioned signs, and if you believe that your relationship calls for a divorce, remember that you can take advantage of professional counseling and/or legal help to protect your best interests long term.